Reconnecting To Yourself
You remember everybody else’s preferences. Time to check whether you’ve still got any of your own.
This may help if you feel
Overgiving, Disconnected, Self doubt, Stuck
What you need:
A little space for something you choose.
Optional: music, paper, a familiar hobby or a drink you actually fancy.
Permission to be slightly rubbish at whatever you try.
You remember everybody else’s preferences. Time to check whether you’ve still got any of your own.
The tiny version
Choose one song, drink or comfortable place because you prefer it.
When to try it
Overgiving, Disconnected, Self doubt, Stuck.
Five to ten minutes, or one small choice.
What you need
A little space for something you choose.
Optional: music, paper, a familiar hobby or a drink you actually fancy.
What you need to hear
You do not need to make this useful, profitable or suitable for posting. Enjoyment is allowed to be the reason.
Try this
Ask: “What would I choose if nobody else needed an answer from me?”
Pick something small. Play a song you love, doodle, read a few pages, potter outside or choose what you want to eat.
Keep it manageable. You do not need to rediscover your entire identity before tea.
Notice whether you enjoy it, dislike it or feel nothing much. You are gathering information, not taking a test.
Afterwards
Write down one preference you noticed.
Look for one place you could include that preference in ordinary life.
Journal prompt
What do I like when I am not trying to be useful or agreeable?
Keep it comfortable
If feeling detached or unlike yourself is frightening, persistent or affecting daily life, speak to your GP. A hobby is not a substitute for support.
Explore your boundaries
Back to the Healing Toolbox
Write down one preference you noticed.
