Their needs keep coming before mine.
Common signs...
You may feel...
You can read the room beautifully, but have not checked how you feel about being in it.
What might be going on
Caring about other people is not the problem. The problem starts when their feelings and preferences automatically decide what you do. You can consider somebody else without disappearing from the decision.
Try this now
Before your next yes, pause and ask what you would choose if nobody was disappointed by your answer. You do not have to act on it immediately. Start by noticing it.
Reflection
Their needs keep coming before mine.
What am I taking responsibility for that another adult could carry themselves?
Include your preference in one small decision. Notice who can make room for it without asking you to disappear again.
Something You Need To Hear
Why this card fits
Queen of Cups is useful here because caring and carrying are not the same thing.
Practical point
You can listen, care and support somebody without taking responsibility for managing all of their feelings. Ask what support is actually yours to give and what belongs to them.
